A study at UQAM offers new avenues to treat the sick of the game says Stéphane.
Stephen has tried everything: the specialized therapy center-Dollar Cormier, public self-flagellation to Gambleurs Anonymous (GA) and even the voluntary registration of the exclusive club struck the casino. Yet he is unable to make a cross on the game even though he knows his disease may cost him his family. The solution? Take the player rather than as an individual but as a partner and head of a family, any initiative in Montreal who sowed the first seeds of Stéphane “long remission.”
Pathological gambling is a mental illness just like depression and, therefore, affect the entire family unit. When Stephane meets his credit cards in one night, that his wife and two children who suffer first, not him. Hence the idea of ??the Laboratory on the couple and sexuality at the University of Quebec at Montreal (UQAM), which has undertaken to do away with misconceptions about the pathological gambler to regain all the perspective of the couple through a behavioral study.
Stephane and his wife, the approach was a revelation. “I tried Gambleurs anonymous, but I never liked the system. I do not like having to speak before the world and hear the world around me crying telling their daily blah blah, he says. At UQAM, it was more a kind of way. We learned to communicate better, understand each other better. ”
The gambling Stephanie was born with the advent of the casino in Montreal in 1994. Since then he has relapsed after relapse. The proposal for a workshop torque is decreased to point to the spouse of Stephan, who now refuses to live with “three children at home.” Is that the forgiveness of Stephane is fragile and it is unthinkable to entrust him with bank cards or credit without tempting the devil.
As evidence, he thought on the list of removed from the casino, he goes anyway. Come, will not it? It depends. “I tested the system on numerous occasions and it is not perfect. There are days when I ventured to go and where I was coming back full or empty pockets. Other days, I went and I did look in his eyes. How to do is get us to the side and tell us very nicely to leave, “says Stephen, who would like a more … muscular.
Given the impasse, common to most couples who are struggling with this disease, caregivers of the Laboratory on the couple and sexuality, Villeneuve and Vanessa Anic Anderson have developed a questionnaire and a two-day seminar to to give such couples the tools to communicate better. “It’s very interactive, we show techniques and it takes time to put into practice to promote their integration. The idea is to encourage listening, but also how to express themselves, “says Vanessa Villeneuve.
Supervised by Drs Gilles Trudel and Richard Boyer, the project will compare 120 pairs them to quantify the importance of communication in the couple to prevent relapse. The reverse is however not excluded. “While it seems obvious that a gambling problem will eventually affect the marriage relationship, it is also possible that communication problems in marriage can lead to pathological gambling. The relationship can play both ways, “suggests Dr. Trudel, psychologist and researcher at UQAM and Centre de recherche Fernand-Seguin (CRFS).
This hypothesis is particularly interesting study in people over 55 years. And for good reason. Since 1975, pathological gambling would have increased 45% in those over 65. “They have plenty of free time and the game can afford to fill a part,” says Dr. Trudel, who cares about the long-term consequences of such behavior. “People who are retired are often fragile, and when the game enters their lives, it often has more impact. Losing his fortune at age 25 is one thing, at age 65 is the end. ”
More generally, pathological gambling affects 2.1% of Quebec’s population (125,000 people). To these are added almost 500,000 players potentially pathological, is in the process of becoming. Problem gambling can lead to major depression, suicidal thoughts, debt, poverty, criminal behavior, loss of employment and a dysfunction in marriage can lead to separation or divorce.
For Dr. Trudel and Boyer, it is not outlandish to believe that cleaning up their daily and focusing on the supportive role played by non-playing spouse, participants will substantially reduce the possibilities of relapse. “We must not lose sight of a healthy couple relationship prevents various types of mental health problems and physical,” says Dr. Trudel.
Wife Stephanie, she believes. “I realize that I’m able to talk to him and tell him how I saw things,” she says. Best, Stephen became an open book for her. “I did not realize it the first time I lied because I did not care enough attention to her mood swings. Now, I know from her tone. ”
But the couple knows that all this remains very fragile. “The word ‘relapse’ re always surface. My last was three or four months and it haunts me, “Stéphane drops. In the meantime, fingers crossed.